on my mind lately

pants: Madewell (similar)
top: H&M (similar)
sweater: Gap (similar)
shoes: Nine West via Marshall's


making plans is a funny thing. if there's one thing that i've learned in my short 23 years on this earth, it's that things don't always go my way. in fact, i'd say they don't go as planned almost every time. and i'm okay with that, because it usually ends up being better that way. there's always something to be learned, experienced, and/or discovered.

but, i'm at a point in my life where i officially need a plan. i need to plan for the next step i'm going to take and i don't even really know where to start. i think back to my first day of college at the ripe age of 18. so much anticipation and excitement (and maybe a little bit of anxiety, if i'm being honest) about a new chapter. finding myself. learning new things. meeting new people. being challenged in new ways. facing new experiences.

i feel like i'm about to be back in that same stage. except with a little more anxiety because, this time, i'm totally on my own.

if it's possible to be absolutely terrified and totally excited at the same time, then that's what i am.

in case you wondered what's been on my mind lately, now you know.

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  1. Have you read quarter-life crisis? It's a good read for that stage - I've totally been there and I'm sure will be there several more times over the course of life. Enjoy the journey!

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  2. love this casual cute look on you -- those pants are fab!! xo

    http://allthingsprettyandlittle.blogspot.com/

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  4. I remember that stage. Graduating college is in in the top 5 biggest transitions of life - and having a new job is in the top 5 as well. Big transitions that take some time to get used to. I had no idea what I wanted to do after college. In fact, that summer I googled "fun jobs" because I was so lost and didn't necessarily want to settle down into anything too permanent. I ended up working at a local college for a few years before decided I wanted to be a teacher. Totally lost a lot of the time, but let me tell you. I cannot count how many times God provided. Usually at (my) last minute, but all in His perfect timing. He'll let you know what's next - in His own timing. Prayers for patience, guidance, and an open heart. Allow this time to be fun and maybe a little off the beaten path - not stressful. Allow Him to show you the way! No worries! :)

    www.livingasauceylife.blogspot.com

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  5. Although I did things a little backward (i.e. husband, kiddo, THEN college), I am experiencing that same excitement and anxiety about my impending graduation. After so many years with a single focus (graduation!), I'm feeling a bit lost. What's next? When do I send out grad school applications? Would I rather take a break? The unknowns are hard. I like to think I am a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kind of girl, but the truth is I like knowing what to expect. I'm excited to get my degree. I will have it forever and it will open so many great doors. On the other hand, I know change is coming and that can be scary. Good luck in your last semester!

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  6. I love your outfit. I was wondering if you could post a picture from the side view? that way we can see the heel and black part of the shoe? They're so cute, you have such great taste!

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  7. You're far from being alone! I feel like "what's next" and "where do I want to be" and "how should I be getting ready" are constantly on my mind. Sometimes it's a good thing-it's good to feel prepared and to start making moves towards your future. But sometimes you just need to sit back and enjoy the ride (I think). I guess we'll find out!
    PS-I'm so glad that you used this new shoes in an outfit post. They are even cuter on!
    Jenn
    With Luck

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  8. Adore those shoes - after I saw them yesterday, I ran in TJ Maxx to see if they had anymore (and then realized that you actually said Marshalls, whoopsie), but I did find them! In the most gorgeous shade of gray! Thanks for posting them :)

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  9. I'm right there with you, girl.
    I feel like I'm in a weird sort of transition stage now that college is over.
    I know things will fall into place, but it's still pretty daunting.

    P.S. adore those shoes even more on!

    xo

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  10. I can totally relate! (minus the super cute outfit & always cute hair) I have no idea what the next step in my life will be and there's so much pressure from family/friends to decide. I suggest praying for God's guidance if you aren't already! :)

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  11. You're definitely not alone - how come the early/mid-twenties don't come with a big warning sign? Everyone talks about how "tough" high school is, what about how terrifying your twenties are!?

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  12. I can totally relate! I think I've been having those same thoughts every year for the past five years! Good luck with your plan and remember to {ENJOY} the adventure along the way!

    Molly from littlebittyprettylife.blogspot.com

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  13. i'm totally at one of those points in my life.
    30. married. and with many questions...
    i think i about where i will be one year from today...
    where will i be living?
    where will i be working?
    baby? house? car? weight? family?

    ugh, the unknown.
    my plan: buckle up & enjoy the ride.

    xo - heather
    www.ThisLifeIsYours.com

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    1. Well said. Buckle up and enjoy the ride. I think about things too much and always want to know what will happen next? I made a promise to myself to live in the moment and enjoy what is happening now. It's important to set goals, but we can't forget about all the steps we have to take to get there. Looking back on the 31 years, I have learned the most when I have struggled...not when things were easy.

      Life is a journey and life is good.

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  14. Lauren, I think you have just hit a struggle point for so many of us. I am 26, married and past college and still don't feel like I always have direction or a plan or at least a plan that is being followed. But you couldn't be more right about the plan always turning out better...because thank goodness God is bigger than we are and can plan better things than we could ever imagine.

    Rest in His truths during this exciting but scary time my blogging friend. :)
    Thanks for sharing.

    Lauren @ My Polished Side Blog

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  15. I've spent my whole life planning & for 2013 I've vowed not to plan. I've discovered it is much less stressful and I'm a firm believer in what is meant to be will be anyway :)

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  16. Oh man, I know what you mean! I'm also 23. I'm going to be finishing grad school soon and now I really, really have to figure out what I want to do with my life (it's going to have something to do with publishing but I'm not sure what position exactly I want). Transition is scary, but I'm also excited about the future! You're definitely allowed to be nervous and scared, but eventually you'll get past this transition stage and be totally fine!
    ~Sara
    Sincerely, Sara

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  17. Graduating from college was such an exciting and stressful time for me. And now, 5 years after graduation, sometimes I still wonder what the heck am I doing with my life.

    Get that first "real" job and see where life takes you. A lot of faith and some common sense, with support from your friends and family are all you really need in life. Things fall into place and there is a greater plan that we are unaware of - we just have to trust in the Lord, as hard as that can be sometimes.

    Kim - http://blog.shopoliviajane.com

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  18. I remember that exact feeling. If you are 23 and have life figured out, I am amazed by you. You are not alone. It reminds me of this quote: "Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t."

    Also, saw those shoes in Marshall's yesterday and almost got them because of you! I'm not sure if I could pull them off but I may have to go back for them.

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  19. 1. Those shoes are to die for & I am really tempted to go to Marshall's after work today to see if I can find them!

    2. Girl, I totally know how you feel! I am at a completely awkward stage in my life where I don't really have a plan or know what I want to do. I graduated college in 2011 and feel like I've been all over the place since! I'm trusting that God will reveal His perfect plan to me. =) And I know that He has a perfect plan for you too! You are so talented & He will reveal to you how best to use your talents. =)

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  20. You can attribute most of your anxiety to Obama; get used to it!

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    1. hahahahaahhaahaha Amen to that!

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    2. Or you could take responsibility for your own life...just a thought.

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    3. I take responsibility for my own life, but part of my hard-earned paycheck goes to those who refuse to do the same...just a fact.

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  21. Cute outfit! I LOVE those shoes!!

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  22. Been there. Felt that.
    One day at at time. Walk through open doors. Pass on by the closed ones. You have a Wonderful Guide and He will direct your paths. Lean on that promise!
    For me, 20 years later=20 years of blessings! God knew better than I did - for sure!
    {Best Wishes to ya!} :)

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  23. Love the simplicity of the outfit! And those shoes - to die for.

    Sheree
    thehartungs.blogspot.ca

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  24. The outfit is simple and very elegant! Don't stress out to much, achieve your goals little by little.
    Best
    Elena
    http://dcinstyle.com/blog/

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  25. Lauren, I'm so with you. School is crazy, but at least you know what the plan is the whole way through (taking this class then, etc, and you see where you're going). Once you're out? ACK! It's freaky. I'm living it right now since I graduated last April with my culinary degree and I wish life was as easy to plan as college was! I think I'm doing alright, and you will, too! I will say that everyday is a ride--enjoy it!

    TheSpunkySapphire.wordpress.com

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  26. Everyone hits that point when they're finishing college. I remember having the same crisis, and everything managed to fall into place. Don't worry, you'll get there.

    Kristina

    Kristina does the Internets

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  27. Plan in pencil, never in sharpie-- ive learned the hard way... God is bigger than a sharpie.

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  28. 1.) You look fantastic.
    2.) Enjoy this time and know that you can reinvent yourself and choose a different path whenever you want to. Heck, I started grad school after my friends finished grad school!
    3.) Those shoes. Yes!

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  29. I am right there with you - too bad I graduated over 2 years ago. But I know that God will reveal His plan for me on his time, as I know he will for you. Btw, I love your hair. I've been try to get my stylist to color it like that but it hasn't quite turned out the way I want.

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  30. girl? come here and be mah fraynd

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  31. Girl, I know how you feel. I, too, graduate from College in May and I have no idea what I"m going to do.

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  32. I'm a huge planner but when it comes to life decisions...I freeze. I hope everything works out!

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  33. Those shoes. My word. They are adorable.

    I just celebrated my 1 year anniversary of being in the "real world" after graduating college. I remember/know all of those feelings you wrote about far too well. I'm sure there is a lot of advice out there but I think that the best thing I found to get through such a huge life changing time was to not put too much pressure on myself. And to accept that those scary feelings never really go away for someone who's been a planner all their life -- there's no next semester to think about! Scary. But also awesome. Opportunities are out there for the taking and you're free to pursue them. THAT is a thrilling adventure. :-) I'm sure everything will work out for you!

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  34. Dang girl! Those shoes are killer!!!!

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